Let’s face it – life isn’t fair.
If you expect life to be fair, you’ve got a lot of disillusion to deal with.
(I could talk about the fact that our perception of what “fair” means is totally skewed, but that’s another blog post.)
What do you do when you feel that life isn’t being fair? Here are three practical things you can do:
1) Stop looking at other people and comparing your situation with theirs.
Often we feel that life isn’t fair when someone gets something and we don’t, i.e., someone else gets a raise and we don’t, someone else gets a boyfriend and we don’t. Our concept of “fair” is being based on the blessings which others are receiving and what we aren’t getting. Dangerous ground! Comparisons rarely help to improve our situation, instead fostering bitterness, jealousy, and envy. Stop looking at those around us.
2) Be grateful for what you actually do have.
A thankful heart is the first casualty of the pitiful attitude of “life isn’t fair!” We long for what we don’t have and totally miss what we do have. If you find yourself focused on what doesn’t seem fair - refocus on what you are grateful for. This will change your trajectory and attitude. And you just might realize that your life is better than you really thought it was!
3) Trust God.
If Jesus is truly the Lord of your life, if you’ve entrusted yourself into His care (which every Christian has!) you need to believe that He’s got your back. You may not understand your present circumstance, yet you must believe that He does. Why? Because He repeatedly promises us in His word that He cares for us (remember the sparrows and the flowers?) His time table may not be ours. His solution may not be our solution. Yet when we believe that God has our best at the center of His heart and will (and He does) our “trials” and "difficulties" are easier to handle, even when we honestly admit that we don’t “love” going through them.
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